Have you ever felt like your entire sense of self-worth is tied to how much you achieve? Like when you're crushing your goals, you feel amazing, but the moment you slow down, an unsettling thought creeps in: What if no one notices me? What if no one cares?

It’s a tricky cycle, isn’t it? You’re striving for perfection, working so hard to prove your value, yet underneath it all, there’s that little voice whispering, If I’m not achieving, am I even enough?

Here’s the truth: you are enough. Just as you are—without the accolades, without the endless to-do lists. But I understand. That fear of being unseen? It’s real. And it’s exhausting.

The good news is that you can break free from this cycle. You can start finding ways to feel important for simply being you. This journey isn’t about abandoning your drive or your goals—it’s about shifting the source of your worth from what you do to who you are.

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, connection, and celebration, but for many high achievers, this season can feel heavy and overwhelming.

If you’ve grown up experiencing complex trauma, holiday gatherings with family can bring up old wounds, trigger unresolved feelings, and leave you feeling emotionally drained.

This blog explores how complex trauma during childhood shapes high-achieving behaviors and provides compassionate, practical tools to help you navigate triggers when visiting family during the holidays.

Do you ever feel like you just can’t relax, no matter how much you try?

If you’re a high achiever, you’re not alone. 

Relaxation can feel elusive, even impossible, when your brain is constantly racing with thoughts of what’s next on your never-ending to-do list.

 Let’s explore why high achievers often struggle to rest, and how you can take meaningful steps to embrace leisure and relaxation in your life.

Have you ever felt like no matter how much you accomplish, it’s never enough?

You wake up with a to-do list a mile long, and even when you crush it, the satisfaction is fleeting.

Sound familiar?

That’s the trap of productivity culture—a system that glorifies doing more, working harder, and achieving endlessly while neglecting your well-being.

Spoiler alert: it’s not the key to success—it’s the fast track to burnout.

In this blog post, we’re peeling back the curtain on the lies productivity culture tells us, offering practical steps to simplify your life, and giving you permission (yes, permission) to do less. Because here’s the truth: real success isn’t about how much you get done—it’s about how good you feel while doing it.

In today’s society, the image of the "good girl" is often celebrated. She is the woman who excels academically, climbs the career ladder with apparent ease, and manages to juggle numerous responsibilities flawlessly. However, this seemingly perfect façade can often mask deep-seated issues stemming from childhood trauma. As a licensed therapist specializing in somatic and talk therapy, I have worked with many high-achieving women who exhibit what is commonly referred to as "good girl syndrome." This article explores the connection between childhood trauma and high achieving behaviors, the symptoms of good girl syndrome, and how these women can find themselves trapped in toxic workplaces due to their heightened distress tolerance.

Trauma is a deeply distressing experience that can leave lasting imprints on an individual's mental, emotional, and physical well-being. While trauma is often associated with adverse effects on one's life, it is essential to recognize that some individuals develop coping mechanisms that propel them towards high achievement. In this article, we will explore the relationship between trauma and high achievement, delving into the neurobiology behind trauma and its impact on the flight/fight/freeze response. Additionally, we will identify ten signs that may indicate high achievement is rooted in trauma, and provide ten mindful and embodied strategies to manage the potentially problematic aspects of being a high achiever.

In our modern society, the emphasis on the mind and intellect often overshadows the importance of the body and emotions. We are encouraged to think, analyze, and communicate primarily through language, leaving little room for nonverbal expression. As a result, we may find ourselves disconnected from our bodies and emotions, leading to unprocessed trauma and emotional blockages. Somatic therapy offers a refreshing alternative, acknowledging the body's innate wisdom and its role in healing, and providing a path to liberation from the constraints of the mind.

Many of us have a hard time assertive ourselves, or expressing our needs and wants to others. Whether it’s with a significant other, a parent, a family member, a friend, a colleague, or even a stranger, setting a boundary can be really hard to do. Often times, we avoid asserting ourselves because we want to avoid coming across as mean, rude, or selfish.

In a fast paced world and with a desire to always improve and be better than the next, it is becoming increasingly difficult to keep up and maintain the satisfaction of success. As a self-proclaimed “perfectionist,” I know this feeling all too well. The desire to produce and succeed often results in losing sight of the purpose of our hard work. We become resentful, exhausted, and burned-out.

“The most exquisite paradox: as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all. As long as you want power, you can’t have it. The minute you don’t want power, you’ll have more than you ever dreamed possible.” ~ Ram Dass